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BBC<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\nThe UK bench press champion is urging men to “be vulnerable”, as he prepares for life-saving surgery.<\/p>\n Ram Patten from Frome is having surgery on Friday to remove cancer from his intestines.<\/p>\n He has urged other men to get tested for cancer and to “speak out and be vulnerable”.<\/p>\n “At the gym, everyone’s high-fiving and smiling and hugging but that’s not normal because everyone’s day is different,” Mr Patten said.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n “If I want to encourage other men to speak out and be vulnerable, I’ve got to lead by example,” he added.<\/p>\n “I’m really scared. I’m never scared. For me to admit I’m scared, I feel like a defenseless baby.”<\/p>\n He said he would “never have known” he had cancer, had he not taken part in a charity initiative to get tested.<\/p>\n “I have been and to this day am entirely asymptomatic,” he added. “I went to the British championships, I won, I beat everyone I was going up against.<\/a>“<\/p>\n When he found out he had cancer, he was trying to be strong for his wife Candice, Mr Patten said.<\/p>\n “Everyone responds differently to this kind of news. I don’t think you can prepare yourself.<\/p>\n “Both of us walked out very stoically in silence. Candice, I’m sure, was thinking she had to be strong for me. <\/p>\n “I could hear my breathing. As soon as I sat down in the car and closed the door, I just burst out in tears.”<\/p>\n<\/div>\n He added he was a “headstrong” individual and it came as a “shock” to give up control to the cancer.<\/p>\n “I’ve always been able to do difficult things because I never considered death as a real option,” he said. “For the first time ever, I was not invincible.<\/p>\n “For the first time in my life, this was something that was entirely out of my control.<\/p>\n “I had an alien growth in me that I just wanted to rip out, and I can’t.”<\/p>\n He said he wants to share his story to inspire other men to open up about their feelings.<\/p>\n “There have been times at the gym when I would go to the car, close the doors, cry and then go back and act like everything is fine and I’m sure other men have felt the same way,” Mr Patten said.<\/p>\n “It’s important for men to interact with each other and it’s important for women to feel safe amongst them and express themselves in front of a man without worrying that this person is going to ridicule them.”<\/p>\n![](\"https:\/\/www.bbc.com\/bbcx\/grey-placeholder.png\")
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